Rant Session

If I'm being honest, being single, a lot of the time, stinks. This is what I have felt due to the pressures felt from society and the people around me. Society has placed this view on relationship statuses to be something where, in order to experience fulfillment and happiness, one must be in a relationship (whether that is boyfriend/girlfriend, engaged, or married). What is the big deal about it anyway? So many people have been successful and lived a wonderful life without ever being in a serious relationship with someone or being married.

Take for example, Jesus. Was Jesus ever married? Nope. Jesus was a single man here on earth, but when He came to this earth, He overcame the old law and we are now married to Christ. We have an everlasting relationship with Him, who redeemed us from our sins. Take a look at what I found in scripture:

“Or do you not know, brothers—for I am speaking to those who know the law—that the law is binding on a person only as long as he lives? For a married woman is bound by law to her husband while he lives, but if her husband dies she is released from the law of marriage. Accordingly, she will be called an adulteress if she lives with another man while her husband is alive. But if her husband dies, she is free from that law, and if she marries another man she is not an adulteress. Likewise, my brothers, you also have died to the law through the body of Christ, so that you may belong to another, to him who has been raised from the dead, in order that we may bear fruit for God.” –Romans 7:1-4 (ESV)

This passage is showing that when Jesus came and was crucified on the cross for our sins, we have died to the law through His body and now belong to Him. This can be taken as marriage to Christ, and some translations use the word “marriage” in this passage rather than “belong” to explain our relationship to Christ. Take a moment to reflect on what this passage means to you in your life.

Some of the most common complaints I hear myself saying are things like: 

• I am not dating, therefore nobody likes me and I'm not good enough
• All of my friends are dating, becoming engaged, or getting married; therefore, there must be something wrong with me because I'm not like that. 
• What is wrong with me? I can’t get a boyfriend.
• I must not be pretty because no guy has ever asked me out.

Have you felt this way? I know there are more to add to the list. I have found that writing out this list has helped me vent and get things off of my chest, resulting in my feeling a lot better when I get done. There are going to be struggles in any moment in life. This happens to be the moment you are in, but what are you going to do with it? I always go back to this one saying that I found somewhere, I cannot recall where. But it goes like this:

“God chooses what we go through; we choose how we go through it” –Unknown

Friends, please do not be discouraged and feel like you have nowhere to go and are no good. God loves you, I love you, and there are so many people out there that love you. You may not have a significant other at this point in your life, but God will bring someone when His timing is right. Don’t lose heart and don’t give up, good things will come to those who wait! I will talk about waiting in more depth in future posts, so stay tuned!